Egos, Sandboxes, and the Art of Playing Well with Others: ICFT Counselor Commentary
Abby Sagasser, MA, IMFT
Feb 18, 2026
Effective communication and collaboration play a central role in navigating the emotional and practical complexities of divorce. This article uses the metaphor of a sandbox to explore how ego, the drive to “win” or prove oneself right, can interfere with productive negotiation and resolution. When ego dominates, progress stalls, costs escalate, and relational ruptures can deepen. By contrast, approaching the process with curiosity, perspective, and a focus on shared goals fosters more adaptive outcomes.
